Venus: Goddess of Love and Strippers

The Astrology

  • The Sun is halfway through Venus-managed Libra and in a sextile (harmonious) relationship with Jupiter in Sagittarius. Sagittarius and Libra are compatible signs.
  • The Moon in Saturn-managed Aquarius is in a trine (beneficial) relationship with the Sun and Mars in Libra. Air signs Libra and Aquarius get each other. This cooperative trine improves communication.
  • Venus has moved into Mars-managed Scorpio. This change of address (leaving Libra for Scorpio) allows Venus to see and relate to Uranus in Taurus, one of the signs that Venus manages. This move also brings Venus into a harmonious relationship with Saturn in Capricorn.


There are SO MANY WAYS to talk about the current transits! All the items above are ripe with symbolism, but I will start with Venus has moved into Mar-managed Scorpio. The other items will have to wait for another day.

On the same day Venus moved into Scorpio, I got a text from a woman who’s traveling this week for business-related reasons. She celebrates her birthday this month, which means (from an astrological perspective) that Venus manages her Libra Sun, which makes Venus a prominent player in her life experiences. She said in the text that she’d reserved a room at an historic hotel in Atlanta and was looking forward to dinner at their rooftop restaurant. When she checked in, she was very surprised (a bit unnerved, too) when she found out that the hotel also has a strip bar where a woman who calls herself “Blonde” has been stripping for 40 years.

If I tried really hard, I could never imagine a scenario that expressed the symbolism of Venus’s move into Mars-managed Scorpio better than this woman’s real-life experience.

When Venus is in Scorpio, it’s in its “detriment.” Detriment here means “a state of being harmed.” When we think of Venus, we tend to conjure up images of Aphrodite, the goddess of love. This positive version of Venus is associated with romance, beauty, art, and the capacity to love one another. The shadow side of Venus is what we see when the goddess of love and beauty is harmed in her relationships.

As Above So Below (Bringing the astrology down to earth)

When a man or a woman’s ability to relate to others is damaged, what we see or experience are the negative manifestations of Venus. We see the strippers, sex workers, gold diggers, nymphomania, the “guy” or “doll” who exchanges their self-worth for something that has value: money or security, etc. But none of these manifestations could occur without the “other” person in the relationship. The stripper needs an audience. The gold digger needs a willing partner. And there will always be men and women who are attracted to the negative projection of the Venus archetype.

The positive expression of Venus leads us to love unconditionally. Now, I will be honest and say that I have struggled A LOT with the concept of unconditional love. I’ve learned, however, that my belief about unconditional love was wrong. I thought it meant loving someone in the “turn the other cheek” sort of way that was part of the instruction for living that I received in church. That kind of belief IS detrimental in any and all relationships.

To love unconditionally means to love yourself so well that your primary experience is well-being regardless of what is happening with others or in your environment. It means feeling balanced within yourself, because you’re not allowing conditions (other people or things) to destabilize you.

Venus in Scorpio will expose you to your negative beliefs that limit your ability to experience well-being. Once you become aware of what holds you back, you can transform your beliefs. This is the power of Venus in Scorpio.

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Think Better, Feel Better

It was 5:00 AM when I looked at the clock on the dresser and decided it was way too early to get out of bed. I snuggled deeper into the blankets. The next thought I had was Love yourself unconditionally. I’d been asleep, and an hour had passed.

I know that thought was received, and the reason I know that for sure is because I’m far more inclined to have critical reflections about the day before upon awaking. Thoughts like I could have done __________ better yesterday and I’ll do better today.

And I know it was received because I’ve always pretty much rejected the concept of unconditional love. I’ve heard that I should love unconditionally since I was in Sunday School, but it never made any sense to me. I’d think about people who’d done mean, hateful things and then I’d think No way am I going to love those people unconditionally.

The closest I’ve come to feeling unconditional love is the love I feel for my children. I love them every day no matter what happens. Parents do tend to love their children. But soon after childhood ends, and certainly by the time we become adults, many of us believe we have to earn love from partners, neighbors, employers, and even from their own children.

Consequently, I’ve never extended the same level of acceptance to myself that I give to my children. It never occurred to me that I should love myself that much. Sound familiar?

Why did I receive that thought now?

The conditions were right. I’d been asleep and my mind was not active. And I was asking the right question: How can I feel better? Not, How can I feel better about someone else, but How can I feel better.

Snow and wind

The conditions

I live in St. Paul, Minnesota, and this February is officially the snowiest on record with 31.5 inches of new snow on the ground. Snowbanks are shoulder high and the month isn’t over. It’s been colder than normal, as well. I work from home, but I’ve had to drive through and walk on the snow and ice often enough. Poor travel conditions and too many days being housebound have been really challenging! I’ve spent more than a few hours perusing places like Sanibel Island in Florida or southern California on the computer. I’ve felt confined by the conditions.

I’d grown tired, though, of my irritable self and my ongoing thoughts of escaping to someplace warm and green. I know that regardless of where I go, I have to come back to me and what is here. And so I’ve been thinking more about I can feel good in spite of the circumstances and conditions around me.

“I Surrender”

I’d cried “uncle” and surrendered my resistance to the circumstances AND THEN I heard the answer Love yourself unconditionally. It wasn’t Love others unconditionally, but Love yourself unconditionally.

In that moment, I knew that my desire to feel good in spite of the conditions around me was the answer I needed and wanted. The explanation I’d heard so many times, and that had never made sense or seemed possible to achieve, was missing a key component: Love yourself unconditionally. 

Why now and not before?

Habits of thought, even those thoughts that are self-defeating, often go unchallenged. But when I cared enough about myself to want to feel better, I received a thought about how to feel better.

We get messages in the form of thoughts all the time. Where do thoughts come from? In astrology, the planet Mercury represents thinking and communication. In the myths associated with Mercury, he’s the messenger who carries messages to humans from the gods. Our thoughts cause us to want/desire things in life—relationships, a home, security, creative fulfillment, and so on. Venus represents how we give to and receive from ourselves and others. The Moon represents emotional energy. These are the energies that we use to attract experiences in to our lives.

Thoughts do become things, including habits, in your life. Often, too often, criticism and judgments from others are accepted and then internalized. The conditions (some of which have nothing to do with you and everything to do with the other person) others use to measure your value and worth become the conditions by which you then judge and criticize yourself.

The good news is that habits (patterns of thought) can be stopped AND a belief is only something you continue to believe. Beliefs can be, and often need to be, changed if your goal is to feel good most of the time.

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“The tragedy of life is not that it ends so soon, but that we wait so long to begin it.” — W.M. Lewis

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∼ Sharon